Spiritual Relationship
If there has been one over-riding passion in my life, it has been
learning about Relationship.
I have always been fascinated by how people interact with
each other, relate to each other, misunderstand each other,
mistreat each other,
and love each other. How is it that two people can love each other
one minute, and hate each other the next? How can two people see the same
situation in entirely different ways? What causes this differing perspective?
Is this what causes relationships to fail?
Why is there so much conflict in families?
Why do groups (tribes, political parties,
factions, countries) war with each other?
As a young girl, I took it for granted that when I was old
enough I would find "true love". As I progressed through adolescence
and early adulthood, I began looking for the perfect relationship,
one where you were always in harmony with your mate, one where you always
saw things the same way, and of course, you
could read each other's minds.
After a few early relationships, it soon became apparent that
the "perfect" love was going to be harder to find than I originally
thought. I became determined to fully understand the dynamics of
relationship both by studying all the written material I could find
on the subject, and also by experiencing relationship with different
types of people. I even pursued
a Masters Degree in Psychology because I naively thought
that by studying psychology, I would find the answers I was
looking for. My burning questions were
1) Why do relationships that begin as harmonious and passionate usually
degenerate into conflict and blame, and sometimes violence 2) How does one sustain the
passion in a long-term committed relationship?, and 3) How is one
able to see a relationship (that they are in) clearly? And most
importantly, 4) What is Love? What does it really mean to Love someone?
After reading every book I could find on Relationship, I finally stumbled
upon 2 books that introduced me to
The Pathwork -
"Creating Union", and "The Pathwork of Self-Transformation".
The Pathwork is a series of lectures channeled from the Guide by Eva Pierrakos.
When I read the Pathwork Lectures, I could feel the energy of the Guide
running through my body like an electrical current, opening my heart.
I knew this energy was supporting me and helping me to re-member the message
in the lecture at a soul level.
For the first time in my life, I began to understand that the purpose
of relationship is to learn how to keep our hearts open, and to see
each and every person as Sacred and Divine Beings.
I also learned how to improve my relationships by being in Integrity and
acting with more Compassion.
Studying the Pathwork and
using Light Body techniques
enabled me to progressively open my Heart and clear my Mental, Emotional
and Etheric bodies (subtle bodies) of energetic blockages, blockages which
impede our ability to Love.
I began to truly understand that the people around us are mirrors to
who we are, and what are issues are. The difficulties we have with other people are not
because of their stuff, they are caused by our stuff. It is
our responsibility, and ours alone, to deal with our stuff. So many
people say "If only he didn't do this, or If only she would do that, I would
be happy." STOP!!! Casting blame
on anyone but ourselves only drives couples apart and causes a relationship to stagnate or
deteriorate.
The simple truth is that when you clear yourself energetically of enough
"hidden" stuff (fears, error thinking, mass-consciousness beliefs, expectations, etc)
your relationships become deeper and more harmonious because YOU are clearer and able to see
things from a different, higher perspective. The wonderful side effect of this clarity
is that it becomes easier to keep one's heart open and truly see the other person
as a Divine Being. Truely Loving is simply
the ability to keep one's heart open under any circumstances. This is a simple thing,
but sometimes incredibly difficult to do. The more you can
keep your heart open, the more you vibrate at a higher frequency so you begin
manifesting things that you truly want and desire. All things that are of
lower vibration begin dropping out of your life. In other words, the more of your stuff
you deal with, the better your life and your relationships get, and the more LOVE
you will experience in your life!
So what makes a relationship great? There are 3 things:
1) Each partner has to be willing to
COMMIT to each other and the relationship. This means working towards a common goal of complete trust,
honesty, and integrity with each other.
2) Each partner has to be committed to
their own Spiritual Growth. This means each person has to be willing
to self-introspect and look at any "stuff" that is is being triggered by any given situation.
It also means each person is willing to look at the situation from a different perspective,
or be willing to let go of an issue because it turns out that it's just not that
important.
Usually it is the person who is the most violently triggered, or who is exhibiting the most resistance to a
situation who has the underlying issue that needs to be cleared. Some people say that they want
to grow Spiritually but do not DO what is necessary for growth. What counts here is that a person
is actually clearing and moving through issues, not just giving it lip service.
3) Each partner has to be
committed to supporting their partner's Spiritual Growth. This means compassionately assisting each other
in understanding and working through issues and NOT being afraid to call the other person on their "Stuff".
It does NOT mean one partner is always the one who compromises or gives in because s/he values the
relationship more. It does no good to baby the other partner by allowing her/him to hide from
their issues. That does not foster Spiritual Growth or allow a Relationship to grow or deepen.
When these 3 ingredients exist in relationship, watch out! There is no limit
to how much the Love and Passion in your Relationship can deepen and grow, and you will
be in a Relationship that will literally bring Heaven to Earth.
The following Pathwork lectures are the foundation to a deeper
understanding of Relationship. I sincerely hope that reading them will
bring to you as much Joy and Love as they have brought me. Namaste.
Click here
to access additional lectures at
Daniel B. Holeman's Awaken Truth Web Site.
